Worthy Of Her Trust, My Transparency. Book Report

Worthy Of Her Trust By Stephen Arterburn 

Worthy of Her Trust is a book written from the experience of Stephen Arterburn, A man who aided in work on books such as “Every Man’s Battle.” A book designed to help man combat and defeat sexual sin through prayer,accountability and the power of God. In the book, “Worthy of Her Trust,” Mr. Arterburn gives his testimony about his struggle with pornography, adultery and lust. He gives the reader the facts about sexual sin and first hand illustration on the damage porn and lust can cause in a marriage as he himself continues to repair his own marriage.  

His Testimony/My Testimony

The rest of this report will do my best to write plainly,  in this book, Mr. Arterburn was transparent and honest and so I will do the same. In the beginning of this book, Mr. Arterburn wrote on his struggles with porn. He wrote about how he discovered porn and how he knew that it was wrong to do it but over time that feeling of discomfort went away. As it did for myself. and was replaced with the sensation he had with porn. He would get high off of the porn and when the high went away he would feel bad about it and then just repeat the offense again. I can relate to that. Many times I would feel the same and repeat the same cycle of addiction. The high, the crash and the relapse. I  think back to sitting in a therapist office and having to write and give details about my sexual history and answer questionnaires that made me remember the things I have done to get to this therapist office. But in that situation they weren’t asking about the crimes and the arrest or why did I do it. They just wanted to put and blanket label on it and it was the same as the label they gave Stephen Arterburn “Porn Addict.” In the book he tells how his wife thought that was just an excuse to give for his lack of faithfulness. And I sit here today and I have have been labelled a porn and addict. It was an uncomfortable and when they said that I might need to have police  or someone monitor me if I have my daughter with me. 

Hitting at home.When Stephen was caught in his adultery the first time his wife called him a stranger. I say that hits at home because since the first time I was caught in my adultery, because to be honest, I flirted with women and had personal talks with women I touched women. I am beating around the bush here, but the fact of the matter is, I had adulterous relationships with women. And when Mica found out she considered me a stranger. This is something I remember from reading Jim Roberts testimony, His wife found his porn and was devastated she did not know her husband. I was a fake and a liar for the first two years of our marriage. I blamed her every time she found more of my dirty from my past. I said “you said you did not want to know about my past,” honestly I tricked her into agreeing to not wanting to know the pervert that I was.  

My wife, as well as many wives like her are a blessing from God. The first time I screwed up she said “you need to get this right because your ministry will suffer if you don’t.” She said she didn’t trust me. Mrs. Arterburn did not trust him, Mr.Arterburn understood that and work and still works at earning her trust. For the last six plus months I did not think my wife trusted me. And then told an intern that she did. I was floored because I did not know this. To be honest, I didn’t want her to trust me yet. I know I hurt her, I betrayed her. I destroyed my marriage and it has been hanging by a thread. I have sat there and pretend that  everything was fine. It wasn’t I ruined it. I took my wife’s smile from her. Robert says to my wife, “Smile” nearly every time she around. I took her happiest of married life away from her. I have been a horrible cheating husband, And by the grace of God she has been here this whole time. 

CONCLUSION

Conclusion, I have been and cheater, an adulterer, and I should not still be married right now. But by grace I am still married. Stephen Arternurn is still married, he laid out a plan to rebuild his marriage and he did and he made it better. Transparency, Accountability, I used to hide and just stay in my bubble of no one needs to know. I also spent nights on my couch, in jail, in my car, and now I spend one night a week sitting around people who all have sex crimes and are told this is a safe place to talk about it all. If I was honest with my wife, my accountability partners and anyone who cares about me. I would’ve gotten the help along time ago. I will do everything I can to have my marriage to the one like Stephen Arterburn, he went from near divorce over twenty years of growth.  I want that. 

Works Cited

Worthy of Her Trust by Stephen Arterburn